You’re excited! You’re ready. You took the plunge and booked a boudoir session. Only, you kinda wanted to do something creative with the images, but aren’t sure what that means. It can be hard to think of how to be creative with your session. Do you want to do a theme? Do you want to do a traditional boudoir session, but maybe gift them to your significant other in a cool way?Lucky for you, boudoir pictures are always a crowd pleaser. So there really is no pressure to be extra creative… you in lingerie is enough! I’ve certainly never had a client come back to me after a session and say, “Ya know, he just wasn’t really into them.” You can absolutely shoot a traditional boudoir session and print/deliver them to him any way you choose, and he’s guaranteed to go nuts over them! However, through the years my clients have shared with me their ideas and there are definitely some pretty incredible ideas. Here are some of best ways to enhance your boudoir experience for you and your significant other.
1.) Cater your boudoir session to show off your awesome personality. This is a wonderful way to capitalize on the many sides of you that make up who you are. Here’s an example: Let’s say your boudoir session revolves entirely around the many sides of you… Some of the images are sensual and intimate, some images were more specific/funny, or maybe they revolve around the things that interest you (hobbies, talents, etc).
2.) Make the images a kind of scavenger hunt of your body. This option is great for the couple who enjoys the heat of their relationship, or would like to rekindle it. How this works is you decide on a certain number of your body parts you want to highlight in the scavenger hunt based fun facts about your relationship. Then I’ll shoot them in a beautiful, enticing way and you can put together one amazing scavenger hunt for your significant other that is both sensual and thoughtful. In case you’re not tracking with me, here’s how it breaks down. You use clues like “where was the first place you gave me a hickey”, “if I had a tickle button, where would it be”, or “how did I get the scar I got when I was in high school?.” And we’ll have already shot a series of amazing, corresponding images for each of these questions that you can hide in different places throughout your house. For example, if where you’re most ticklish is your neck, you can slip one of the images in your jewelry box next to your necklaces or by your perfume in the bathroom. You could do this for his birthday by leading him throughout your house to answer all the clues until he finally gets to you… his official prize! Or, if you don’t want to hide the images, you could simply email him one clue a day leading up to the big occasion and only send him the image once he correctly guesses the clues. Fun, no!?! It certainly will be for him!
3.) Write a letter to your future self. For those that are doing a session for themselves… you aren’t gifting the images to anyone, you won’t actually have an option to use the images in a more meaningful, creative way, right? WRONG!
I’ve come across many clients who have decided to have a repeating boudoir sessions throughout their life. They have one done once every 5-10 years or so simply as a way to document the changing roadmap of their body. I mean think about how much a woman’s body goes through. This year they had a C-Section. Ten years later, they beat breast cancer. A woman’s body is a visual representation of her life journey. Her laugh lines. Her age marks. Her scars. It’s all such a beautiful display of who she is and where she’s been.
Here’s where the letter comes in. How cool would it be if every time she has a boudoir session, she also writes a letter to her future self. A letter that she can’t open and read until she is also viewing her most recent boudoir session. That way she can honestly look at the images of herself while she reads her past hopes/goals/fears/insecurities/triumphs. How. Incredible.
4.) Do a boudoir session and celebrate just because. Most of my clients come to me because they have a specific occasion in mind they want to celebrate. They are doing a boudoir session for a Birthday/Father’s Day/Anniversary/etc. However, I had one client get images done “just because” she felt her husband was pretty awesome on a daily basis. She then printed the images and left them in super-mundane places where she knew her husband would be daily. She taped one up in the shower, but one in the toaster, and stuck one on the orange juice in the fridge. If you don’t want images of yourself sitting in random spots throughout your house, you could always spread this out over the course of a week/month/year and hide one every now and then as a fun surprise. Maybe you ask your husband to go get the mail knowing you’ve already stashed a sexy picture of yourself between the magazines and bills. Or, you ask him to fold a load of laundry, knowing you’ve placed a racy picture somewhere in the heap. Wow. As I’m considering all of this, I realize this may be the answer to how to get your husbands to pitch in at home. *mind blown*
Maybe your significant other has just gotten a promotion. Or he’s being an amazing new dad. Or maybe he’s been extra supportive lately. This would be such an incredible way to reward him. Or maybe he’s being deployed and you want to be able to email him a gorgeous image when you’re missing him most.
5.) You have a big anniversary coming up this year. One of my client’s had boudoir pictures taken of her to celebrate her ten year anniversary, which is already awesome. But then she did something even better.
She purchased a 10 image album for her husband of the images we shot together as well as 12 individual images. Why? Well, for their tenth year together she wrote him a letter to read on the last day of every month. She also sent a gorgeous photo of herself with every letter. Then, on their actual ten year anniversary, she presented him with a final letter and the album.
I think this is so creative and amazing, I could cry over it. For anyone celebrating an anniversary, you should totally consider this method.
6.) Use your boudoir images as an extra fun surprise on a trip. I don’t know about you, but when Matt and I get to go away somewhere together and relax, it’s heaven. Vacations are my favorite. They’re like pixie dust. As soon as we’re on our way out of town, “vacation magic” begins to work it’s way into our relationship. As we relax, we laugh more easily around one another. We walk hand-in-hand more slowly, savoring each other. We linger at dinner and have that extra coffee. We kiss more and touch more. It’s just freaking awesome.
I had one client who brought her boudoir album with her on a trip to Hawaii. Once they arrived and he wasn’t looking, she slipped the wrapped album into one of the nightstand drawers in their hotel room. On their first night there, she took him to a special dinner where they had an amazing meal. Once they were back in the hotel room, she had her husband sit on the bed and handed him a card that basically told him where to look for a surprise. Meanwhile, she went into the bathroom and told him to come see her after he’d opened his present. While in the bathroom, she changed into the same lingerie she’d been wearing on the last page of the album. You all see where this is going…Yep. He got two desserts that evening!
7.) Help his business trip blues by hijacking his laptop. If your significant other travels a lot or you’re about to go out of town for a bit, you can sneak one of his electronic devices and download your boudoir images onto his computer. Then you could change his screensaver to one of the images you took and create a new folder that you label something like “I miss you…” or “TOP SECRET SEXY SURPRISE” or something. You could even make it a slideshow that he could play and enjoy. Just make sure you put it on his personal device and not a work device. Or if he uses his personal device for work as well, maybe shoot him a text once he’s on his way letting him know that the next time he looks at his laptop, he should be alone. Otherwise, well…you may just make that conference meeting a heck-of-a-lot more interesting.
8.) Movie night…with a twist. Tell your significant other that it’s been a long week and that instead of having a date night, you just want to enjoy a night in with him. Tell him you’ll grab snacks on your way home. Once the kids are in bed, spread a blanket out on the floor, light some candles, grab the snacks and your “movie”.. Only instead of a movie, you’ll play a DVD slideshow of your boudoir images for him. Once you’re sure he won’t pass out from the pleasure shock you just gave him, spend the rest of the night enjoying each other.
9.) Instead of traditional maternity portraits, opt for a boudoir maternity session instead. Many women decide they want to have maternity photos done. It’s an amazing way to document the changes of your body during an incredible time in your life. A sexy alternative to that would be to do a boudoir maternity session instead. It isn’t for everyone, but it’s a great option for the couple who finds the changes of a woman’s body stunningly enticing. You could present him with your amazing images and let him decide if he would like to have any framed and hang them. Or if he’d prefer to keep the images tied up in the box in a discreet location for his eyes only. Newborn babies are amazing, but between the lack of sleep and the rest your body needs to recuperate they aren’t exactly a conduit to physical intimacy with your partner. I’m sure having some beautiful, sexy images of you in the interim would be much appreciated.
10.) Take him on a “trail of love”. Print all of your boudoir images on a small scale (4×6’s, 5×7’s). Then create a trail from the door your significant other enters the house through to your bedroom. Write little playful notes like “I’m waiting for you…” or “I can’t wait for you to kiss me…” or even a piece of paper with your lip print on it and mix them in between the pictures on your little “trail of love”. Go all out! Spritz your perfume on the notes. Sprinkle some rose petals along the way. Once you’ve taken him all around the house, be ready on the bed with candles, champagne, whatever other romantic details you two enjoy. But be ready…he’s definitely going to want to thank you thoroughly.
However you choose to gift your boudoir images, just have fun with it. Know that no matter what, he’s going to FLIP! Just remember to give him some time to pick his jaw up off the ground.